these 8 unpleasant experiences shared by people who are afraid of being cheated on

Does the fear of being cheated on by your partner come only from your relationship? It seems not. If some are watching for the slightest sign, like the brand of a car supposed to correspond more to unfaithful men or these 5 signs that the flame is going out, it is good to understand where our insecurities come from.

To make your relationship last, you can say these 7 sentences every day… Or analyze your fears in depth. The site HackSpirit helps you by listing 8 unpleasant experiences that people with this particular fear share. Collaborator Isabella Chase shares her vision. She is described as a New Yorker wishing “building strong, authentic connections in a rapidly changing world”. Here is his opinion on which binds those who have difficulty trusting their other half.

Have already been betrayed

The experience of betrayal is profound and leaves indelible marks. It influences our perception of things and our interactions. This can instill doubt in the person being cheated on, even after they have healed from that hurt. To avoid having your heart broken again, you can be careful, and you are not the only one…

A childhood marked by broken trust

Isabella Chase compares trust to a delicate vase: if you break it, it is difficult to repair and will still have cracks. She was personally very marked by the lack of fidelity in the couple that her parents formed. They were not a role model in this area and she therefore had difficulty integrating the concept of trust. Children who have experienced this are often afraid of repeating these mistakes and tend to distrust others.

A close friend’s lie

Even for a trivial thing, seeing a friend lie to us while looking us in the eye and in a convincing manner can disturb us, to the point of making us question the honesty of everyone around us.

Being exposed to infidelity in the media

Films, series, shows, news… All of this influences our perception of the world, much more than we might believe. It is therefore normal to unconsciously incorporate the discourses on infidelity to which we are exposed in the media. Naturally, our brains absorb information and create patterns based on it. An element to take into account therefore.

Manipulative exes

A manipulative partner will exploit the trust you place in them to maintain control and deceive. Such toxic dynamics leave traces and encourage hypervigilance. A trauma that makes one particularly sensitive to “alarm signals” and fuels the fear of being cheated on again in a future relationship. It is a defense mechanism to no longer suffer.

A lack of self-confidence

We all have self-confidence issues, whether it be about our appearance or our intelligence. But these insecurities can create doubts: the other will inevitably find better things than you elsewhere. If we haven’t worked on this lack of esteem, it can distort reality, regardless of what our partner really does or thinks.

Have already been abandoned

Being abandoned by someone who was supposed to be there for you doesn’t just go away. This feeling is so painful that it has consequences later. The fear of abandonment can settle in you when you are in a relationship, the fear of not being enough for the other person.

Lack of communication in past relationships

We can never say it enough: communication is essential in a relationship. You have to talk about your fears, your insecurities, not put them aside because they can resurface and give rise to doubt. We cannot guess what the other person thinks, we must talk about it openly, to avoid any misunderstanding.

To conclude, Isabelle Chase advises taking care of yourself, healing your trauma by seeking help (therapy or counseling in a safe environment). You have to start by recognizing your emotions and accepting them because of your past. Have compassion for yourself and begin some gentle introspection to heal your wounds. And in your relationship, practice honest and open communication by expressing your concerns and working on your mutual trust.

Editor for Aufeminin since 2022, Charlotte is passionate about cinema, French and international, and a fortune reader. Curious about everything, she talks as much about personalities as…