Encountering some disagreements is completely normal within a couple. But if these prove too frequent and sometimes lead to disproportionate arguments, perhaps we should try the so-called Captain’s method. On TikTok, a user caused a sensation among Internet users after sharing the ins and outs.
Facing disagreements is part of the daily life of a multitude of couples who in most cases end up settling through communication in particular. But if these turn out to be too frequent and most often lead to disproportionate arguments, it may be a sign that it is time to change methods.
On TikTok, user Cassidy Skelton caused a sensation among Internet users by posting a video on the so-called Captain’s method within couples. A sequence already viewed by several million users of the platform who did not hesitate to share their own experience as a couple and the different names that they associate with this method of “Captain”. But what does it consist of and how effective is it?
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What is the Captain’s method?
“We follow this Captain method, where each area of our life has a captain, and if you are the captain of that area then you are able to dictate the rules and the other person just has to follow and listen ”explains Cassidy Skelton in her video.
And to illustrate: “For example, Nick is the captain when it comes to speaking with landlords in the places we rent. He talks to the landlord, he organizes all that kind of stuff, but I’m the captain of our money, so I pay the rent. We do it this way because he’s better at communicating with owners – it stresses me out when I do – and I’m better with finances.” A methodology that the couple seems to follow on a daily basis and which would have a positive impact on the education of their newborn.
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A widely adopted method?
When one parent holds the baby in their arms, they automatically become the captain of the situation, since they are supposed to be the calmer one of the couple. “For example, at the airport, I’m the captain because I’ve been a flight attendant, I know how they work, and so I’m less stressed. So, every time we are at the airport, I carry our son because I am the calmest parent and by extension, our baby will be calmer too”she explains.
If the method seems to bear fruit within the couple, it does not prevent its share of frustrations when a designated “captain” dictates to the other what to do. “Yes, of course, you are the captain”, she likes to declare in an ironic tone when the rules dictated by the captain end up exasperating. This is ultimately a method shared by many Internet users, as we can read in the comments to the video, some opting for the status of minister or chef.
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