Experience makes us more demanding, and this applies to all spheres of life; sex included. Thus, the things that we accepted in the past end up being refused as time goes by: bad moves are no longer worth it. According to a study, there is even a specific age when women can no longer tolerate “bad sex” in bed. What is it?
The more we mature, the more we know what we like in bed. Indeed, it is by exploring and testing that we know what we like or not, what we want and what gives us pleasure. Over time, we end up having our habits, sexual practices and favorite sexual positions; so many preferences that allow us to experience the “good sex” in our eyes. There is not really a universal definition of “good” or “bad sex”, but rather personal definitions, since everything depends on each person’s tastes. However, broadly speaking, “wrong sex” translates to a sexual relationship where you come out frustrated more than satisfied, and where we have not really having fun (without necessarily talking about orgasm for that matter). A sexual relationship that leaves us hungry, even that leaves us with a bitter taste…
If whatever the period of his life, we are never safe from coitus where we have not enjoyed, there is however an age when our tolerance vis-à-vis the wrong sex is lessened. . A study* has defined it. Conducted by Hana (manufacturer of over-the-counter birth control pills), said study claims that it’s 21 years old that women no longer accept the wrong sex, that they raise awareness, and above all that they say so: for 28% of them, it is at this precise age that they have learned to no longer endure a sexual relationship that they consider bad. After this age, they are no longer afraid to tell their sexual partner that they have not enjoyed sex and more generally, they no longer stay in a relationship where they are not fulfilled. But why 21?
What’s next after this ad
A pivotal age where you know what you want in bed
Kate Moyle, couple therapist and psycho-sexologist specialist for the brand of sex toys UKexplains it as follows to our colleagues from Subway UK : “21 is the age at which many people move from one stage of their lives to another, including leaving university to enter the world of work. This stage change potentially comes with a shift in expectations and an awareness of what is and isn’t acceptable to us.” 21 is therefore an age where we know more than we want in all spheres of life, including sex, and where we refuse what we once said “yes” to without it benefiting us.
An age when there are more possibilities to educate oneself in terms of sexuality
Not only we dare to communicate more on this subject with our partner, but we also dare to talk about sexuality more with friends and peers: we discuss more freely our carnal desires, what is happening in our sexual life. By exchanging, we learn to see what is happening in the life of others, we discover other points of view, we consider additional points of reference from which to build our criteria for a “good” part of legs in l air (besides his own, of course).
Access to information on sexuality is more easy compared to our young years: we find it with those close to us, but by extension, also on the internet, in books, etc. “We found that this corresponds to a time when sex positivity and sexual wellness are part of everyday conversation, and where everyone can access information that was not readily available or discussed before” explains the sexologist to our counterparts across the Channel. We also no longer have the reflex to seek out this information and we have the will to educate ourselves sexuallycontrary to before.
What’s next after this ad
At 21, you feel more confident and so comes (sexual) fulfillment
But the researchers also mention that the year after they turn 21, women feel more confident in their sex lives. It is this confidence and this assurance that allow them to refuse what does not suit them (or no longer). In this sense, 39% of women surveyedaged 22, claim to enjoy sex more specifically becausethey have more self-confidence.
*Study conducted by Hana in the United Kingdom, on a sample of 2003 cisgender and transgender women, aged between 18 and 45 years old
Open-minded and in love with life, Emilie likes to decipher the new phenomena that shape society and relationships today. Her passion for the human being motivates her to write…