Parenting bears, helicopters, eagles, tigers, almonds… all parenting styles are different but there is one that stands out for its dangerousness for children.
The new generation of parents is much more focused on the psychology and mental health of children, to our delight. Children are listened to more, often less constrained and locked in boxes that they have to tick. But breaking free from the rules of our own parents is not always enough to avoid negative aspects of education. We have listed educational models that harm children but there is one that is particularly dangerous and poisonous to them.
In the book Maman-Tiger, Papa-Ours… I discover my totem animal to flourish with my child by Aline Nativel Id Hammou published by Leduc, parents can assimilate themselves to a parental model. But there is one that has many negative aspects, one of which is very unpleasant: children become selfish when raised by eagle parents. But what is it to be an eagle parent?
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The neglectful and disengaged parent results in selfish adults
It is well known that children reproduce what parents do. When a child grows up with an eagle parent, he is certainly led to be more autonomous quickly but he will above all do like the parent: be selfish. Indeed, the eagle parent is characterized by his lack of interest, he totally neglects his children and prefers to concentrate on him. As explained in the book, this parental model can have strong points when it is not pushed to the extreme, but it has many weak and even dangerous points.
So, when taken to extremes, the eagle parent is truly toxic with their children: “The toxic parent does not necessarily want to harm their child in the first place. But he’s so self-centered that it’s going to hurt him. Moreover, this behavior is so self-centered that it is difficult to make the parent concerned aware of it. But some signs are unmistakable. For example, this type of parent is constantly critical, he is unable to congratulate or encourage his child. As psychologist and writer Aline Nativel Id Hammou explains, this kind of parent can be dangerous for children. By not feeling considered as a human being, he will have just as much trouble considering others and will therefore be more likely to be a selfish or almost narcissistic adult.
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Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…