In the UK, a young woman with vaginismus finally managed to get pregnant. She and her partner have never had penetrative sex.
Like an air from Jane The Virgin? In the collective imagination, for a woman to get pregnant, it is imperative that she receive sperm through penetration. And yet, it is quite possible to develop a pregnancy without having been penetrated before. This is what happened to Nicola Moore, a young English woman, in her twenties.
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Suffering from vaginismus, a prolonged or recurrent involuntary muscle contraction of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the entrance to the vagina, she has never been able to have sex. As a teenager, she was also unable to use tampons during her period, this condition preventing her from relaxing her vagina. She confided in the Mirror: “The doctors told me I was okay, so I thought something was wrong with me. When I was 18, I met my daughter's father. He was older than me and had more experience already, we started trying to have sex. It was impossible, I didn't understand what was going on. The only way I could describe it is that it was like it hit a brick wall. "
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The miracle of life
It's too often forgotten, but sex isn't all about penetration. There are many other ways to help each other. Nicola and her partner were also engaged in various practices and this is how the young woman became pregnant. When the first symptoms of pregnancy arrived, she explains that one of her colleagues then suggested to her that she might be pregnant, a thought that made her laugh a lot.
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But when the test came back positive, Nicola had to face the facts and started to panic, especially about how she might give birth, due to her vaginismus. “I couldn't believe it, I was so shocked and confused, she told the Mirror. I kept wondering how I could bring this baby into the world if I couldn't even have sex. I was afraid my partner would think I had cheated on him because it seemed so impossible. But luckily he knew me and knew my body, and he didn't doubt me for a second. A lot of people still tell me that I am the Virgin Mary, which really makes me laugh. "
The diagnosis finally made
The doctors who followed Nicola had a hard time conceiving that she had never had sex to get pregnant. Until one of them finally believed his story. “During a routine check-up with the doctor for a pregnancy-related illness, I was seen by a medical student who had recently studied vaginismus., she explains. I told him about my struggles, and he told me that I probably had this disease. I went home to google the symptoms for symptoms and couldn't believe what I was reading. " The pregnancy turned out to be a blessing, as it allowed Nicola to be diagnosed, after so many years of medically wandering.
What is vaginismus?
She then saw a therapist and was able to get past her vaginismus. At five months pregnant, she even had her first sexual encounter. Despite her fears, Nicola gave birth to a very healthy baby girl, Tilly, now eight years old. She decided to speak out on her story to raise awareness about vaginismus, a disorder that is, in most cases, psychological and can develop at any time in life.