There are many toxic tendencies in romantic relationships. These include future faking, cookie jarring and even penny dating, which may break your heart. In some cases, it is possible to be confronted with a narcissistic pervert. “It is the very archetype of the psychologically harmful personality: its goal is to destroy its victim, to deny their identity, to make them suffer,” as explained to Current wife Sylvie Tenenbaum, psychotherapist, of whom certain signs listed by the specialist can help to flush it out, such as moral harassment, manipulation or even lying. In the case of a problematic situation created by the narcissistic pervert, the latter may try to protect with certain sentences. Erin Leonard, a psychotherapist, cited 3 examples in the columns of Psychology Today.
Toxic relationship: here are 3 types of sentences used to manipulate your interlocutor
In the columns of Psychology Today, psychotherapist Erin Leonard has identified three types of sentences that can be used by narcissistic perverts to manipulate their interlocutor.
“You ruined everything”
The narcissistic pervert tries to destabilize you. As psychotherapist Erin Leonard points out, these words are often used when you’re trying to resolve a problematic situation. But narcissistic perverts do not like to confront themselves and will look for someone to blame.
“You have anger issues”
If this phrase is used during an argument or disagreement, it may be intended to place blame on you. “A narcissistic partner often dismisses and projects, meaning that instead of looking inward, they immediately blame you,” explains Erin Leonard. Instead of turning to his own anger and analyzing the situation, he immediately blames you.
“I’m sorry you feel this way.”
At first glance, this sentence seems polite, but the specialist recommends “to take a closer look”. Indeed, with this formulation, the narcissistic pervert “immediately rejects your feeling”, underlines the specialist. With this sentence, the narcissistic pervert does not put himself in your place and does not show empathy.
“Victim narcissists”: this manipulation technique where the narcissistic pervert places himself as a victim
This is not the first time that the methods of narcissistic perverts have been highlighted by psychologists. Last January, Natalie Jambazian, a therapist based in Los Angeles (United States) defined to the media Well+Good the strategy of “victim narcissists”, namely narcissistic perverts who place themselves as victims. In this situation, they also blame others and refuse to take responsibility for their actions, do not accept criticism and automatically place themselves as victims.
Sources:
- 3 Phrases a Narcissistic Partner Uses During a Confrontation – Psychology Today. (02/29/2024)
- ‘Victim Narcissists’ Are Secretly Super Manipulative—Here Are the 8 Red Flags To Help Spot One – Well+Good (12/22/2023)
- What are the common personality traits of narcissistic perverts? – Current wife