Fabian Vogt and Samuel Walder
“A sweater was enough to bully me”
“I was often beaten at home by my father, an alcoholic. In order not to have to show the bruises on my upper body, I wore long sweaters even in summer. That was reason enough for my tormentors to bully me. They came every day, until one day an authority placed me in a foster family. But the damage was done, my self-esteem tended towards zero. In my ten school years I was in around nine different schools in different cantons, for example in five foster families, a youth flat share and a school home. I was bullied almost everywhere. At the age of 18 I no longer had any real will to live and spent my time playing computer games and being fed by the social welfare office. I had severe depression, no social contacts, no money and no future. If someone had put a pistol in my hand at the time, I would have probably killed my classmates. I get a 100 percent IV, and even if I feel better and the very dark thoughts are gone, I will probably never be able to lead a normal life. ” Martin B. *
“Be amazed how friendly people can be”
«As soon as you are different, you offer bullies a target. That’s what happened to me at school because I was taller than all the other girls and didn’t wear branded clothes. This is what happened to me as a medical practice assistant (MPA), where they obviously did not want me on the team because of my considerable body at the time. And that’s what happened to me later, as a qualified MPA, when my boss said to me: ‘Make yourself thin, although it will be a bit more difficult.’ For over ten years I tried desperately to get my problem under control, repeatedly gave there are actions and comments aimed at how I look. Frustrated, I decided to have gastric bypass surgery. I am now around 60 kilograms lighter and am amazed at how friendly people can be. Even those who have bullied and no longer recognize me. But these people no longer interest me at all. ” Annika Mani (33) from Zollikofen BE
‘Yes, they beat us up. But they also made us strong »
“I haven’t forgotten her to this day. The punches. The spitting actions. The calumnies. The teachers who said I would never make it. The fear of going to school and – even worse – the way home. The longer, the more I withdrew. A mechanism that still exists today. After decades. Salvation came in the apprenticeship when I had new classmates. It all started in first grade because I could draw better than others. There are people who meanwhile have apologized. But the existing wounds are deep, and helplessness, loneliness and sadness will always be my companions. I say to other victims of bullying: Live your life! There are good people. Yeah, they beat us up. But they also made us strong! ” Maja Schams (47) from Kreuzlingen TG
“Then they flew over the tables, so great was my frustration”
«My story reads like that of many victims: During my school days I was always excluded, elected last, teased. Because I was too nice. I was bigger and stronger than almost everyone around me, but I never really used my strength. If so, then the others also flew over the tables, so great was my frustration. I thought it would all be over after school, but my job continued. At my former employer, I could never please my boss. No matter what I did, he only saw mistakes. Complaints didn’t help, his boss protected him. I was so desperate that I thought of suicide six years ago. That was the low point. I was bullied for more than two decades. I just couldn’t take it anymore. But then I discovered bodyboarding. Sport saved me. Sometimes I still have to come to terms with things from before. But there is no comparison with before. ” Marco Weibel (36), Niederlenz AG
“The longer I was in class, the more often I was absent from class”
«When I came to a new school in Zollikofen BE, the bullies came too. That was in 4th grade. Right from the start, I was insulted and pointed at me. Because they wore Gucci, I wore H&M. Once when my goddess gave me a nice new sweater and I proudly wore it to school, another girl happened to receive the same. Now I was seen as a copycat. Everything got worse. The result: the longer I was in class, the more often I was absent from class. I couldn’t take it anymore. Fortunately, I switched again in the eighth grade. My old classmates tried to badmouth my new classmates, but failed. From then on it got better. Later I went into therapy and today I can say that I am fine. But I’ll never go to class reunions. ” Mirjam F. (29) *
“It hurts to be excluded like this”
I worked in a bank in my twenties. There I became acquainted with bullying in often subtle ways. I’ve been told over and over that I’m no good. I was also said to be of little or nothing worth in this company. It went so far that I received little wages and was officially unloaded from company events. I know that a bank is not the most empathic employer. But to be so obviously excluded hurts. Thomas S. * (57) from Zurich ZH
“Some people are treated like waste”
I was bullied when I was at school because I had the autoimmune disease type 1 diabetes. The students beat me. There were regular blows in the chest, arms and stomach. It was really bad in the cooking class. When I said something, the youth social worker classified me as ‘depressed and not intelligent’. Later I was diagnosed with the exact opposite: ‘gifted and highly sensitive’. All of the suffering resulted in my not being able to graduate from school and still not having a job. It is mean that some people are treated like garbage! Sven Hofmeier (34) from Dornach SO
“The teacher hung my nude picture on the blackboard”
«My father fled from Czechoslovakia to Switzerland. So I was a refugee child and not a real Swiss. In middle school it started with bullying. Classmates plagued me again and again. From insults to physical humiliation to sexual coercion. The teacher also took part. Once we went to the class camp. There two topless students photographed me in the shower. The teacher hung the picture on the blackboard after the camp and said the photo could be reordered. When I got into a higher class, he said to me goodbye: ‘You will become a good cleaning lady.’ It gnawed at me for a long time, but today I can say that I am much better. I ended up running out of university with a degree in medicine and mailing the diploma to my old horror teacher. I’m not a good cleaning lady now, but a good doctor. ” Doris M. * from the canton of Aargau
“Bullying destroys lives”
“Since I buckle inward when I run, I don’t move like most of the others. That’s why I was bullied, threatened and beaten at school. I was even choked. The teachers in Davos GR just looked the other way! For five years! Until I came home with choke marks on my neck. So my father went to the police. When she came to school and threatened the students with ads, it was suddenly all over. From then on I was no longer touched. The school administration said that the police action was really not necessary, but I am convinced that if it had not come, the bullying would never have stopped. I still suffer from certain fears today. I am traumatized. Fortunately, I have found a good company that accepts me for who I am. People can be cruel and are unaware that bullying can destroy lives. “
Michael Hobi (34) from Klosters GR