Sexuality among women aged 50 and over is often overlooked. Knowing what is the so-called “classic” frequency of sexual intercourse is a question that comes up often. But there are no ready-made answers.
Are sex and fifty incompatible? While the arrival of menopause is for many the sign of a drop in desire and libido, it is often only temporary.. Sex life at 50 is real. We grant you, the representation of fifty-year-olds in the positions of the Kamasutra is not commonplace, yet they too practice the position of the Viennese oyster. In a study of 2021, relayed by the brand of sex toys Lelo, out of 2,000 respondents 45% acknowledged having had their best sex in the air when they were “old”. 37% of them also declared having more sexual intercourse than in their youth.
In this same study, 1 in 8 people aged 50 and over say they have sex at least 5 times a week. A nice performance no doubt, but which should not be a goal to be achieved at all costs. According to an Ifop poll conducted for the newspaper Mariannealone 4% of women in their 50s have sex more than 3 times a weekwhen 22% of the 7,403 people surveyed say they have only one part of their legs in the air per week.
A situation that may have a link with the onset of menopause. This can have an effect on libido and sexual desire, due to the drop in hormones linked to ovulation.
The effects of menopause on the frequency of sexual intercourse
Menopause causes the end of ovulation and therefore of menstruation. Vaginal dryness can then set in and vaginal pain occurs. The decrease in libido can thus reach and self-confidence, take a hit. However, nothing is final! In the old days, “among women aged 50 and over, one in two women had not had sex for a year“, explains Dr. Catherine Solano in Health passport. “Today, at the same age, i.e. after 50, only one in 10 women has not had sex in the past year“.
Especially since for some women, menopause is lucky. It reduces menstrual pain which can help in sexual fulfillment. For others, there are concerns about fatigue or depression. However, to find the flame in bed, solutions exist.
What solutions to regain your libido after 50?
Don’t panic about the situation under the duvet, there are solutions to boost your libido. Starting with sex toys. These sex toys, invented to increase desire, are more and more common in the drawers of seniors. Some are for pleasures alone, others as a couple. All can be used in preliminary to accentuate the fantasies and at the same time lubricate.
Romantic walks, tender gestures, discussions about your needs, your desires and your fantasies can also allow you to resume a sexual rhythm. But let it be said, there is no no “classic” frequency for having sex after 50. Just listen to yourself and it doesn’t matter if you want a report every day or rather once every two months or even every 5 months, you are “normal”!