Sometimes it is not easy to decide whether we should fight for a relationship or a person or not. The following signs can help.
As difficult as it is to drop someone and give up a relationship: We have to do it sometimes, after all, we can't be there for everyone. Our time and energy are limited and we should dedicate them to those people in our lives who give us back.
Especially after a relationship has ended, it can be difficult to stand by the step and the decision to separate: Was it really that bad? Can't we maybe still save our partnership if we both work on each other? Maybe we just need a break? Such doubts are legitimate when we ban someone from our lives, and sometimes they also save us from making mistakes and giving up too quickly … But by what – apart from our intuition – can we ultimately determine whether someone deserves it that we fight for both of us or not? According to "Psychologytoday", the following signals speak in favor of being from a person finally to distance.
7 signs you should NOT fight for a human
1. "All your fault!"
There are always two people involved in conflicts and relationship problems – but if one of them is unwilling to see this and puts all the blame on the other, they cannot be resolved. If someone shows no insight and willingness to admit their guilt or mistakes, you only have one thing left: Give it up!
2. I, I, I
The person can give you their perspective of the situation in detail and impressively, but makes no move to be interested in your point of view? Then save your effort and empathy for less self-centered people – because this person doesn't deserve it at this point in time.
3. Little mice become elephants
No matter if friendship, partnership or family relationship, when every small discussion or difference of opinion turns into a big argument with slamming doors and drama, there are obviously two people together who neither do well nor understand each other. Life is too short to make an elephant out of every mouse – so in that case you'd better make the mosquito … uh … fly!
4. Always the others
"She said …", "he would have earlier …", "In this chaos you can't …" – whoever has excuses or blames others doesn't take any responsibility for himself Act and will not work on yourself to improve a relationship. In that case, you'd better take responsibility for both of you – and draw a line.
5. Misdirected feelings
Your partner or buddy is crying over a show but showing no empathy when you are going through a difficult time or having your period? Sorry, but then he doesn't deserve you to share anything with him at all.
6. 180 degree turn
If a person undergoes a strong personality change, for example from being tender and empathetic at first, suddenly becomes aggressive and cold, it is not your job to search for causes for a long time. Certainly people develop and change, but when the change is so blatant (and negative) that you cannot understand it through your mere sympathy, there is no point in fighting for the relationship – because how would you want one so unpredictable Still trust person in the future?
7. Victim role
Do you keep hearing how difficult it is for XY? How rarely has he or she been hugged by the father and how often fate puts broken pieces in his or her way? We all have our difficulties and problems, but we have to deal with them. Those who always see themselves in the role of victim and do not want to take responsibility for their own life are not in a position to have an equal relationship. Trying to do it won't make you happy.