Life flaw
I made 3 mistakes in my life that I really regret
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Yes, our mistakes make us who we are. However, our author has made three mistakes in her life that she deeply regrets – and therefore does not wish anyone else …
To be honest, I’m usually a huge fan of mistakes. I have probably learned most of the important things I know today from mistakes. They are just so beautifully imprinted in the memory – once committed a painful mistake, whoosh, the lesson learned forever! But do you really always have to make all mistakes yourself? When I look back in my life like this, three mistakes occur to me that I dearly wish I never had to make …
3 big mistakes in life that I don’t wish for anyone
1. I thought I had to work all the time
One of the most serious mistakes of my life! For some reason (maybe our performance society …?) I thought for years that I absolutely had to achieve something and always function in order to be worth something – and I lived accordingly … It’s such nonsense! After all, I am human and not a corkscrew. I don’t serve a clearly defined purpose – and if I fulfill it, my life has meaning. No, it’s not that simple. My life is not a race and the straight path is not the best!
Today I know that I give myself my meaning and purpose to myself anyway – through the relationships I have, the experiences I have, and yes, through my successes, but also my mistakes and failures. And that I just have a good time and enjoy the sun. I very much wish I had known all of this from the start! Because since I allow myself weaknesses and breaks and get my self-worth from more than my performance, I live sooooo much happier! And ironically, it makes me “function” even better …
2. I invested my energy in the wrong people
Perhaps the most painful mistake of my life. For years I tried very hard to help people who didn’t love, appreciate or respect me as I wished. Why? Because I just wanted to please everyone! I thought if I tried hard enough, I could convince everyone of myself. Well, you thought wrong! The more I bent and worked hard for others, the less I was valued (funny …).
The deeply tragic thing about it: With all this “wanting to please everyone”, I neglected and disappointed the people who loved me for who I am. Who would never expect me to change for them Unfortunately, one of these people is no longer alive today … That’s why it breaks my heart every day that I didn’t start earlier to shit on people who don’t appreciate me – and instead devote my energy to people who do it.
3. I underestimated my feelings
I am an incredibly emotional person! My feelings are an important part of who I am – after all, no one else feels exactly what I feel. They are also the best signposts ever! Unfortunately, I didn’t want to admit it for a long time … Most of all, I always wanted to somehow derive everything logically, look at it as objectively as possible and decide. Totally stupid! Because:
- Super exhausting, suppressing feelings and thinking through every little thing.
- Completely illusory – life is simply not logical, or my mental abilities are simply not enough by far to understand everything!
- So exhausting!
- It is precisely my subjectivity that makes me so unique and irreplaceable – why do I want to be objective?
- So exhausting!!
- If you ignore feelings, sooner or later it will take its toll – bad!
- (You guessed it 🙂 exhausting and zero fun!
- Since I’ve been paying attention to my feelings and following them and of course dealing with them when in doubt, I make much better decisions and live so much happier!
And so I wish I had never neglected my feelings!