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5 signs someone isn’t really strong – they just have a big ego
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We often confuse mental toughness with pomp and a big ego. You can recognize such supposedly self-confident posers by these behaviors.
What does it mean to be strong? At first glance, we often perceive people as strong who are loud, can assert themselves and go through with their plans at any cost. But there is a misunderstanding here. Because these behaviors are not a sign of true inner strength – but of a big ego. The big difference is that these types of people need to get their way first. In reality, they have a tiny amount of self-esteem, and to cover it up they feign strength and confidence with a show of power and a lone wolf mentality. Habits like these expose them:
5 warning signs that a person does not have mental toughness but has a big ego
1. She can’t admit weakness
Vulnerability = Weakness. By this equation, people with big egos live. Nothing breaks through their protective wall, they let nothing and nobody get close to them. But is that really a sign of strength? No. Because true power lies in being vulnerable and yes, weak. This requires a lot more strength than always playing the emotional stone.
2. She covers up her mistakes
Mistakes are part of life. Everyone does some – regardless of whether they are CEOs of global corporations, teachers or kindergarten children. Those who only allow themselves to be guided by their ego do not allow others or themselves to make mistakes. Because from the ego’s point of view, they are a sign of weakness. However, people with true inner strength know that missteps are human and that it takes a lot of confidence to admit them – and to forgive them. Because that’s the only way we can really get ahead.
3. She doesn’t know when it’s time to give up
Of course, most people are busy making plans for their lives. Sometimes things go exactly the way we want them to – sometimes they don’t. Failure is part of life. But the ego keeps trying stubbornly to talk us out of it. Just never give up! It shows greater strength when we can admit that something isn’t working and we’re better off finding a new path. Everything else is pure stubbornness – and that blocks many a great opportunity for us.
4. She values the opinions of others
We all have to get along with people within our social circle. And it’s only natural that we want to be liked by others. But there are people who only align their whole lives with what society or certain people expect of them. Then, when they have the approval of those people, they feel empowered. It takes a lot more courage to stand up for yourself and your values - even if it might offend you.
5. She doesn’t accept help
Nobody can live as an island permanently – we all need other people. However, people who are very ego-driven often see asking for help as a sign of weakness. I can do it alone! I do not need anyone! Those who are really strong on the inside allow themselves to be weak – and are smart enough to recognize when they are not getting anywhere on their own. And most importantly, strong people know that that’s perfectly okay too.