Warning signs in the relationship
If your partner does these things, it’s safe to be suspicious …
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Trust is one of the most important prerequisites for a healthy relationship – but these behaviors of your partner should (rightly) seem suspicious to you …
This often happens at the beginning of a relationship, when the butterflies are fluttering in your stomach and the rose-colored glasses are still on your nose. Our supposed dream man behaves conspicuously, somehow suspiciously, and our gut feeling tells us: be careful! But the butterflies flutter happily to themselves, pink-colored it actually doesn’t seem that bad, and we don’t think about it any further.
In the early stages of a partnership, it would be sensible and advantageous to pay attention to and respond to certain warning signals. Even in this phase you can see whether we can trust the other person in the long term and share our life with them – or not …
8 warning signs that should make you skeptical during the first phase of your relationship
1. All of his ex-girlfriends were horrible – he says
Does he always just talk badly about his exes: inside and previous relationships? Serious?! Not a happy memory? Then the probability is high that it was / is at least partly up to him …
2. Brackets
When you don’t see each other, he writes you all the time, but actually wants to spend every free minute with you? Need for closeness, all well and good, but whoever clings and restricts you from the beginning is probably neither particularly sure of himself nor of his cause – and if you don’t necessarily want to play the therapist in your relationship, a rather unsuitable partner.
3. He is still in a relationship, but wants to leave her for you
Did your relationship begin as a fling or an affair? Then unfortunately we have to tell you: Your chances are rather bad. Many cheaters use affairs, for example, to compensate for deficiencies in their relationship or because the adventure excites them not to finally find their true love. Especially if he tells you that he wants to end his partnership for you, but postpones it again and again, you’d better get out of the affair …
4. Full throttle
He’s already planning the organization of your parental leave and urges you to move in with him, even though you’ve only known each other for a few weeks? But someone seems to be afraid that you will run away again – maybe with good reason …?
5. He’s just perfect
He always does everything just right and is almost too great to be true? Then at least be careful! Of course there are great people, and when we’re in love with someone, we think they’re great. But nobody is perfect, and if you don’t notice the slightest weakness in them, it could be that they are playing for you – and that would not be a good prerequisite for a partnership.
6. Unreliability
He’s usually late and often relocates you? Then he either has too little respect for you or is completely chaotic – the former is a no-go, the latter could at least be exhausting in the relationship …
7. He compares you to his ex
Are you much more down to earth than his ex? And he can talk to you better too? Even if it’s compliments, your partner should see you as you, unique and lovable, and not compare yourself to other women. If the comparison object is also his ex, it could be that he is not completely over her …
8. Dominance behavior
Is he jealous when you talk to other men, try to control you or tell you what to do or what to wear? Just pull the rip cord! Anyone who shows ownership claims in the early stages of a relationship will not respect you later as an independent person either – and is certainly not the partner who encourages and supports you in your self-development.