Do you know pocketing? Perhaps you have already experienced this situation without knowing it. This is a love tendency which consists in concealing the relationship from those around you. A toxic behavior that can cause a lot of damage.
Normally, when you’re in love, you want everyone to know about it! But for some, the proverb “live happy, live hidden” is more suitable for romantic relationships. This is called pocketing. After the cookie jarring, which consists in keeping a partner under the elbow, here is now the pocketing. The term was derived from the word “pocket” which means pocket in English. Thus, pocketing consists of hiding your partner in your pocket.
The partner is therefore concealed from the entourage. Whether it’s friends or family. On social networks, there is nothing to discover that the person concerned is in a relationship. No mention in publications and especially no demonstration in public. The person who practices pocketing is therefore considered single by those around him. And will even go so far as choose meeting places to be sure not to meet anyone. A toxic behavior that can cause a lot of damage to the person who is the victim.
Pocketing or low self-esteem
Being concealed by one’s spouse can have a strong impact on self-esteem. Indeed, it can give the impression of not being up to par, of embarrassing your partner who would be ashamed to introduce you. Or simply that the relationship is not serious at all, and that your partner wants to be able to continue to behave like a single person in order to date other people.
In any case, it is important to have a serious discussion about this with your spouse. In order to understand why he or she practices pocketing. Is this a strategy to preserve the relationship? A hidden fear of commitment? If you want to know for sure, you will have to communicate!