Especially in the first 20 years of our lives, we all get a lot taught.
- Be sure to look left, right, left before we cross the street.
- Always say "please" and "thank you" if we don't want to look like a rude fool.
- 63 divided by 7 is 9.
Most of it is extremely practical knowledge that has been proven to pass on and that makes our lives a lot easier! Sometimes we get a lot of nonsense between all the wisdom and it is not always so easy to recognize. To name just three examples …
3 life lies that we should no longer pass on
1. What doesn't kill you makes you strong.
Says mega easy when something bad has happened to a person. "Take a positive view of it, it will make you stronger!"The only problem is: It's just not true! Pain, injuries, strokes of fate, traumas – such things weaken us, literally blow us away. Only when WE actively do something to deal with them will we grow beyond ourselves and become stronger. But is it then the experiences that make us stronger? No, we are alone! We can and should like to pat ourselves on the back and be grateful if we are stronger after a difficult time than before! Fate, on the other hand, really does not need and deserve recognition …
2. First work, then pleasure.
There is a saying in Russia that goes something like this: "Work is not a wolf – it does not run away from you and disappears in the forest." That means: "Don't stress yourself, the work will still be there tomorrow." And what does that tell us? In any case, that the idea that you have to put the beautiful things in the back and always earn joy in life ("without hard work, no price") is not even so obvious. After all, nobody gives us the guarantee that this "then" will really come someday ...
3. Everyone gets what they deserve.
Admittedly, it is reassuring to imagine that there is higher justice. And if it helps you to be less annoyed and to accept certain things better, the idea is of course quite legitimate. However, belief in this unproven prophecy also harbors a few dangers: For example, that we assume that people who are unlucky are themselves to blame. Or that we question ourselves when fate strikes. Or that we let people who commit an injustice get away ("he will still get his just punishment"). In one sentence: That we generally assume that everything in life is somehow fair. Unfortunately, this is not true (?).
In truth, people have different chances depending on their place of birth, gender and the job of their parents. In fact, the innocent small car driver dies when someone drunk drives his SUV. Our world is not fair in itself. And just because what we do is often not enough to do them justice, we cannot convince ourselves that people deserve luck or misfortune. Even if it may not be so reassuring: We should rather come to terms with the fact that life is not always fair and just. Otherwise, in the end we are the ones to be blamed for injustice …