Lovers see everything through rose-colored glasses? Maybe so – but some "wrongdoing" apparently slips through anyway. Eight ex-lovers tell what they couldn't forgive.
You date, get closer, slowly but surely fall in love with each other – and then suddenly the other does something that ends everything in one fell swoop and kills all butterflies in your stomach. Well, it went stupid, but it happens! In a Reddit thread, men shared their experiences of this kind – so if you want to get rid of someone … ?
8 men share what killed their butterflies
1. Player
"She was showing off that she had several guys on a long leash to have a backup just in case."
2. Message received !?
"During my studies I had a casual relationship with a woman. Whenever we wrote to each other, she only responded after a few hours. In itself not bad, since we only exchanged ideas or clarified our plans for the next weekend or something. A little annoying that it took a whole day to coordinate, but what the heck, I'm a bad writer myself so I can't blame anyone.
However, I then noticed that when we were together she would write back immediately whenever she got a message. She had such a loud song as a ringtone that ran for about 15 seconds while her display lit up. Super noticeable, so that I could see how often she really wrote. I asked her who she was writing with and she said it was just a friend from college.
This made it clear to me that it couldn't work out between us. Not answering right away is okay. Constantly hanging on the cell phone is annoying, but not an exclusion criterion. But the realization that this person is stuck to their cell phone but doesn't think it's necessary to answer me kind of turned me off. "
3. Different budgetary priorities
"I dated this woman, who I thought was pretty great. When we went out to dinner, she told me that she was in financial straits and had therefore moved back to her parents. The way she described it, it sounded like she had she was unlucky and did nothing wrong herself. Something like that can happen. When the bill came, I invited her, whereupon she thanked her and said that she was trying to save. I said: 'Sure, you want to go back in your own apartment. ' Then she: 'No, I'm saving up for a new tattoo.' I have absolutely nothing against spending money on a tattoo, but if you talk about your financial problems on a date, maybe you should start saving for necessities instead of tattoos. "
4. Sweet and sparkling
"She threw lemonade on my head during fireworks because she thought it was sweet."
5. 2 strikes = 1 out
"We had an appointment and she transferred me. She said she had to jump in at work on the spur of the moment. I said it was okay. Next time she transferred me again, supposedly because she had to tutor someone. Which didn't make any sense because you don't plan something like that? "
6. Different humor
"She told me that she wanted to become a 'gold digger' like her mother. When I laughed at it, she didn't understand what was funny about it."
7. Speed limit exceeded
"I met a girl twice during my studies. She was wonderful, but wanted to make it official right away and started scheduling Instagram posts about" us ". She wanted us to spend every day and sleep together. It just came out of nowhere and we barely knew each other. I tried to ignore it but she asked me if I would be her first and that was super awkward. She looked pretty naive and I didn't mean to take advantage of it. I hit planned to take things slowly but she was offended. I finished with her and she was acting totally childish. All in all it took over three weeks. She was really cute but her pace was off. "
8. Not curious enough
"We were on a date and she didn't ask me anything about me. The conversation was completely one-sided, like a job interview or something."