psychology
4 qualities that make you recognize easy-going people
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We all try to avoid surrounding ourselves with toxic and difficult people. But how do we recognize really uncomplicated people?
Who needs unnecessary drama in life? People who rob us of energy instead of giving it to us – no thanks. But sometimes such toxic personalities are very good at camouflage. That’s why we’ve put together the most important characteristics by which you can recognize that a person is relaxed and easy-going.
4 characteristics of easygoing people
1. They don’t take everything personally
“Oh crap, I forgot to reply to the message again today,” you think in panic as you lie in bed at night. Yes, nurturing relationships is important, and that includes staying in touch with the people in our lives. But each of us has phases in which that goes down because other things are more urgent. And relaxed people understand that. They don’t take it personally if you sometimes (!) take a little longer for an answer. Anyone who is immediately offended by every little thing and takes it as a personal affront makes it unnecessarily difficult for those around them.
2. You are confident
It can be very exhausting when someone is constantly insecure and doubting themselves. It takes a lot of energy to constantly reassure another person and to assure them that the outfit looks great or that the food really tastes good.
Confidence is a quality that makes a person much more comfortable to communicate with and spend time with. Straightforward people know their worth, are in tune with themselves, and don’t need constant external validation.
3. You communicate clearly and distinctly
There is hardly anything more exhausting in the interpersonal area than not knowing where you stand. When people can’t articulate what’s important to them and what they want, it complicates relationships of all kinds—whether it’s a partnership, friendship, or professional relationship. Straightforward people just say what they have to say. They don’t make a big deal out of it, don’t fuss, just communicate in such a way that those around them know what they need.
4. They don’t constantly put their needs ahead of others
Communicating your own needs can of course also be taken to extremes. If someone has to impose their will on every decision, no matter how unimportant, it is ultimately not pleasant for anyone. Straightforward people know what they want, but at the same time remain flexible and able to adapt to other people.
If the restaurant that your friend suggested for the next meeting might not be your favorite, you don’t have to open a barrel about that. Next time it’s back to your favorite place. Especially in groups one recognizes such relaxed people who do not frantically rate their needs higher than those of the others in every situation.