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5 things confident people do when they're feeling bad
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Yes, self-confident people sometimes feel bad, who would have thought that ?! However, they typically have healthy strategies for dealing with it.
Confident or not, we are all human. We all sometimes stumble over stones that fate puts in our way, we all quarrel with our feelings at times and we are all torn apart by inner conflicts. Ergo: we all feel bad sometimes. However, how we react to this, i. H. How we show it, how we reflect it for ourselves or what we do about it so that we soon feel better again, can differ greatly.
On the one hand, it is certainly a question of type and depending on our personality, which strategies we use to cope with low phases in our life. Some need more time, others less, some have to let off steam, others remain silent for a while. There is simply no such thing as one perfect way of dealing with difficulties. On the other hand, our maturity and self-esteem also play a role in how we react to problems – and the following behaviors can be signs that the latter is solid.
5 things confident people do when they're feeling bad
1. You notice
Sounds obvious? A good sign – it's not, at least not for all people. People who have poor self-esteem tend to pay little attention to themselves, ignore their feelings or do not take them seriously. Until one day he forgets how to properly perceive and classify them – and that usually doesn't end nicely.
2. You treat yourself like a friend
Many people also get ready when they feel bad and therefore do not "function" as they normally do. Those who have a pronounced self-confidence, on the other hand, treat themselves with understanding and forbearance – as we would with a good friend.
3. You deal with your feelings
Some people try to push their feelings aside when they stand in their way, others give themselves completely to them and live them out unrestrained. In contrast, self-confident people get to the bottom of their (negative) emotions. What was the trigger? Why did it make me feel bad? Is there perhaps a different point of view or positive aspects of the situation that make it easier for me to deal with it? In this way, self-reflective people gain distance from their feelings without suppressing them, and can react to them more consciously and in a more targeted manner.
4. They do something that is good for them
As normal and natural as they are and are part of our lives: low phases should not be a permanent condition. If we're not doing well, this is one of the best reasons to take measures that are good for us: For example, sport is an option, wellness, sprucing up the apartment (maybe not fun, but conveys positive feelings), cooking favorite food, friend Meet inside … – sometimes negative moods are nothing more than signals that we don't give these things enough space in our lives. And even if not, it can never hurt to do something good for yourself. Confident people seem to know this because at least they act on it.
5. They say or show it to other people
If we feel bad and nobody knows anything about it, it can turn out bad. Firstly, others cannot adapt to it and may make the situation even more difficult by placing high demands on us or applying pressure. We don't need that at all in a low phase, when we would like to be left alone and wrapped in cotton wool … That is why self-confident people let themselves be noted for self-protection when they feel very vulnerable – after all, they have no problem anyway with standing by their "weaknesses".
Second, self-confident people know that talking about them can help when dealing with negative feelings: By putting them into words, we ourselves gain a different view of our situation, and the listener will probably expand or change our perspective and Ideally, we will feel understood by her * him or get help. So it looks like we practically cannot lose if we communicate with other people, but gain all the more for it – why not do it then ?!