psychology
7 signs you are a difficult person
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Most people consider themselves to be quite affable. But, is this really the truth? These seven qualities indicate that someone is a rather difficult person.
There are all sorts of personality types, and of course there are some that we get along with better than others. We like some people right away – whether because of the way they talk, their views or their charisma. In turn, we intuitively get along less well with others.
But there are character traits that ensure that these people get along well with very few people. There are above all seven signs that indicate that someone has a difficult personality. These are based on the so-called “Difficult Person Test” developed by US psychologist Chelsea Sleep.
Do you recognize yourself in these qualities? Then you are probably one of the more difficult people.
These 7 warning signs indicate that you are a difficult person
1. You are insensitive
Anyone who is primarily interested in themselves and their own feelings and needs will probably be perceived by others as difficult. For example, if you say whatever is on your mind without regard for the other person, you may end up hurting the person with this insensitivity.
2. You feel superior to others
Do you have the feeling that you are better than your environment in many respects and actually as a person in general? Unfortunately, that doesn’t make you particularly essential (and it’s probably wrong, too, since most of us are more average than we’d like to admit). This feeling of superiority quickly causes other people to avoid you – it can even indicate narcissistic traits.
3. You are aggressive
Those who constantly get into conflicts and immediately become aggressive towards others when things don’t go their way, definitely belong in the difficult personality category. Short-tempered behavior goes down well with very few people.
4. You always think the worst of others
A certain amount of skepticism is part of common sense. But if you are constantly suspicious and don’t trust anyone or anything, you are making life unnecessarily difficult for yourself and others. After all, who likes dealing with people who only think the worst of you?
5. You are manipulative
Consciously or unconsciously, at times we all manipulate those around us to our advantage. But if you’re intentionally planning virtually every interaction you have out of sheer calculation, then you’re far from being sociable. Because real human closeness cannot develop in this way.
6. You are very dominant
Some people cannot imagine any other way than theirs. They always want to set the tone and quickly become awkward when someone doesn’t dance to their tune. Basically, of course, you need people who sometimes take the helm, just like people who tend to submit so that groups and dynamics work. But those who constantly want to impose their will on others are quickly perceived as difficult.
7. You are impulsive
Every decision we make affects other people as well. For example, if you spontaneously book a big trip for yourself on a whim, when you actually wanted to go on vacation with your partner later in the year, this thoughtless action does not only affect you. Therefore, impulsiveness is a character trait that can be rather difficult.
Of course, if you spot some of these traits in yourself, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person per se. But it never hurts to do a little self-reflection and see what behaviors and habits we can work on. After all, we all want to get along well with each other.
Sources used: idrlabs.com, mindbodygreen.com, yourtango.com