When the child angrily throws the muesli bowl around the apartment again, the grumpy teenager is just moaning, and the whole family seems to be sinking into arguments and chaos, the doubts arise: What am I doing wrong?! Can I even be a good mother?
The fact that you have these questions shows that you want to do well for your child, you want to be there for them. That’s the most important thing. Doubts are normal. But don’t give them too much space.
Yes, it can happen that you feel overwhelmed and rage, threaten, shout or punish in everyday life. And torment you afterwards with a bad conscience. Because you actually wanted to be completely different from mother.
But if you focus too much on these negative thoughts about yourself, your child, or your upbringing, it ultimately creates even more tension, arguments, and anxiety.
It is better to feed your brain with positive thoughts. This helps you focus on what is important to you. Is it more patience, more joy in your togetherness, more self-confidence in the face of difficulties.
Positive affirmations are one way to mentally reinforce your parenting role. Affirmations are short phrases that take an optimistic look at your abilities. If you repeat them daily, they will become anchored within you. It’s like a trail in your brain that develops because you use it over and over again. Little by little it solidifies, your brain takes it for fact – and believes it.
So feel free to find a few sentences that suit you and make them a routine. You can say them silently in your head, or out loud in front of the mirror. Or you write them in a special booklet that you can leaf through.
The effort is really worth it. In stressful situations, the brain likes to fall back on deeply rooted routines, on the beaten track. If you If you train positive beliefs, you will eventually act on them.
No matter how stressful the situation is.
Sources used: verywellfamily.com, parents.com