Quarrel in the relationship
5 topics that even happy couples argue about
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Happy couples arguing? Sure, of course! Or did you think they merge into one person and suddenly agree on everything? Where – even then …
Maybe you know from your own experience: Even in the happiest partnerships there is arguments – in some even quite a bit (depending on the temperament and character of those involved!). After all, two partners remain: even if they love each other from the bottom of the heart, two independent people with their own minds and interests – conflicts are inevitable. In some cases it can even be a sign of trust to argue openly and honestly, because the partners show that they know exactly: Our bond is strong enough and our relationship can withstand it.
5 topics happy couples argue about
1. “Oh no, not a missionary again!”
Daily, weekly, irregular, orally? Sexual preferences are very individual, Especially with partners: people of different sexes, the wishes are often quite different, so that one or the other quarrel helps or is necessary to find a common denominator. If you have never argued with your partner about sex, you should ask yourself whether the harmony in bed is real – or whether the other person may not get their money’s worth …
2. “What do you think about this kitsch ?!”
Science fiction or comedy, Italian or Thai, beach or mountains – tastes are different, and in healthy relationships both partners usually try to get along with theirs every now and then Taste in leisure planning, furnishings and co. enforce. But in contrast to unbalanced partnerships, it is usually not particularly difficult for those who gave in to it afterwards to admit that the Thai curry was also quite tasty – and to remember that the sweetheart when choosing a partner is a very good one Taste has proven …
3. “Why don’t you just throw the money out the window ?!”
Who is not called Croesus or Gates or his Finances in partnership strictly separate from each other, you will not get around to discussing with your partner what the common money is being spent on. Does the new mattress really have to be straight? Why spend money on the stadium when it is much more comfortable to watch at home? After all, they are relevant questions, but the good thing: two heads often even come to a more sensible solution than one alone – even if it smokes and hisses …
4. “Can’t you lend a hand once?”
That two people meet (and love each other) who are exactly the same Requirements for order and cleanliness is relatively rare and unlikely. That is why one of them usually does more in the household and has to ask the other to do it more often. And – depending on the mood of both parties – that doesn’t always sound nice, nor is it always enough …
5. “That’s why you don’t have to scream like that!”
Yes, that’s right, even happy couples have to have their own Dealing and communication forms (including quarreling habits) mostly work hard. How often should I contact you? How do I unintentionally hurt the other? What is the best way to calm down after an argument? Misunderstandings are inevitable and most people have to learn to deal with them first. So when partners can talk about anything and their relationship seems largely harmonious to us, this is often the result of trial and error …
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