Raising relaxers – without saying no

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5 clever alternatives to saying no

Do you also find yourself constantly saying No !, Don’t !, Stop !, Stop! says? It’s not fun in the long run – and what’s more, the small but immensely important words wear out pretty quickly.

The small but important word wears out – and it’s just annoying

The no overkill not only leads to the fact that the children no longer listen to it at some point. It also quickly creates the feeling in the offspring that everything has simply been banned. And I’m sure you sometimes don’t want to listen to yourself anymore, because you never really wanted to be THAT. Even if it is clear that you forbid things mainly because you want to protect your child (ignoring the ball games in the kitchen, because you are somehow attached to your dishes – and because your nerves don’t work) are endlessly hard-wearing).

Here are five alternatives for saying no so that your child can also hear when it really matters: for example, when they want to run across the street when it is red. The changeover takes a bit of practice – but it just gets better over time!

1) Formulate positively

For example, instead of saying “No, I won’t buy that!” In the supermarket, give options: “Come on, we’ll choose a mango or a delicious pineapple!” Or instead of “I don’t want you to say that!” Suggest: “Please find another word for it.”

2) Explain what you are really about

If the rubber ball jumps in your child’s face, don’t just ask, “Stop it!” Instead, say: “Ouch, that hurt! Please be careful not to hurt anyone with the rubber ball. “

3) Become more relaxed

Life offers enough situations to teach children appropriate behavior. Fortunately, however, it also offers opportunities where we can enjoy freedom. If the little one wants to jump through the puddles and you’re on your way home anyway: why not? Or if she loves to smear her leftover yoghurt on the table with her hands – just let it go …

4) distract

A small child is fascinated by the whole world to be discovered. But just as quickly as it is magically attracted to something, it is also distracted again when you offer it an alternative. Your little one rushes into an expensive vase in the store, quickly points to a mirror that reflects the sun, or hands him the colorful plastic cup that is one shelf away.

5) Increase the stake

Your little one is begging for a biscuit, but still has nothing right in his stomach? Instead of simply saying no, you could develop a little battle plan: “Come on, honey, let’s make a quick meal and set the table, and after that you’ll even get two cookies for dessert! Oh yes !!

By the way, even in our initial example (child wants to cross the street when it is red) you can do without the no. For example, by shouting: “Come here!” Or “Get off the street!”

We wish all future yes-sayers good luck!

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