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Sensory Sex: Mindfulness in bed ensures orgasms and well-being
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do yourself good. Enjoy with all senses. Be careful with yourself: topics that we no longer only encounter in the yoga studio. They have also arrived in our beds. Sensory sex is the trend for the bedroom.
Sex is varied, fast, slow, loud and quiet, individual and healthy – we know. The most important thing is that we feel comfortable doing it and have fun. But there are also trends in our bedrooms that provide inspiration and variety. While self-love was at the forefront on all levels last year, and masturbation and sexual wellness are still big topics, which fortunately are no longer talked about behind closed doors, the mindfulness and wellbeing trend is now also coming into our Couple relationships: Mindful sex or sensory sex is one of the big sex trends this year, which is supposed to improve both our intimacy and our well-being.
Sensory sex: what is behind it?
Sensory sex, or mindful sex, is about involving as many senses as possible in lovemaking. This should both deepen the intimacy between you and your partner and increase arousal. Every sensory stimulus should be addressed: touch, hearing, sight, taste and smell. While the focus is usually strongly on the genitals, here the body should be considered as a whole, with which we feel pleasure. This should also reduce the pressure of “having to deliver” and at the same time open up completely new realms of sexual pleasure, sexologist Megwyn White told Women’s Health. The only requirement: stay curious!
How does sensory sex work?
You can experience sensory sex alone or with your partner. Because the beginning can sometimes be a bit bumpy, we have some inspiration for all your senses ready.
1. Listen
Music and noise do a lot to us. Everyone knows: A sexy song can make us feel sexy, can get us in the right mood or set the rhythm and speed. But not only music, dirty talk belongs in the category too, the breath, the building moans… Paying more attention to these auditory stimuli definitely has the potential to take sex to a new level.
How to:
- Create a sensual playlist
- make pleasurable noises while kissing your partner or pampering his/her erogenous zones
- Moan, hum, breathe: let your feelings run free. This is not only very exciting, but also gives your partner feedback on what feels good
- Use the power of words by saying what you like, how much you desire the other person, or what turns you on
- Listen to an erotic story together
2. See
What we see is usually the first thing that appeals to us sexually. The curves, the muscular arms, the buttocks, the hands, the eyes – just looking at your partner can be totally sensual. In addition, of course, we also perceive the excitement of:the other through our eyes, which in turn is totally hot.
How to:
- Play with light and color and create an atmospheric atmosphere, eg with candles
- Watch a porn together
- Slowly undress in front of each other
- Blindfold your eyes. So the focus is on the other senses and at the same time it increases the sexual tension
3. Taste
How we can taste ourselves has a huge impact on our sexual attraction. At the same time, however, it also depends on how comfortable we feel in each other and how confident we are in bed if we regard the taste of our bodies as something completely normal that we can consciously explore. Taste also sends hormonal signals about our fertility.
How to:
- Consciously draw your attention to how the other body tastes
Include fruit, chocolate, honey, flavored lube, edible underwear, or anything similar in the lovemaking
4. Smell
Smell is incredibly erotic! This is largely because smell is connected to our limbic system, which controls our emotions, memories, and sexual impulses. Smells can therefore not only evoke memories, but also calm or even turn us on.
How to:
- Use stimulating scents like vanilla, sandalwood, or yling ylang
- Find out what your partner’s favorite scent is and wear it
- Use massage oil or scented candles
- Focus on your partner’s very own scent
5. Feel
It’s no secret that the skin is our largest organ, which perceives a wide range of sensory information through its many receptors: cold, warm, damp, wet, dry, but also vibrations, pain and gentle touch. So it’s no surprise that our skin plays a major role in sensory sex.
How to:
- Play with different types of touch. Sometimes gently, sometimes more powerfully, massage, crawl, caress
- For example, use ice cubes or glass dildos whose temperature you can regulate
- Feathers, velvet, leather, latex, silk: incorporate different textures and explore what feels good
That’s why sensory sex is so good for us
Sensory sex and orgasms have a positive impact on our entire body. Externally, this is reflected in our skin, we radiate and get this great glow. We also strengthen our muscles and our immune system and reconnect more with our body and ourselves. At the same time, sensory sex can lift our spirits, have a positive effect on our well-being and reduce our stress level. And it’s all fun too. Well, we see absolutely no reason not to try it out and enjoy it with all your senses and plenty of time.