mothers about breastfeeding
Bottle instead of breast? Let that be mom’s thing
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Breastfeeding a baby is very personal and the decision should be up to mom. But others often think they know better. Mothers tell about their experiences.
In many moments there are people who want to give us unsolicited advice or push us into something that we don’t want. The same goes for breastfeeding a baby. Mothers can have a variety of reasons that speak against breastfeeding. Not wanting it is also one of them. For some women, breastfeeding may be smooth and comfortable. However, others may have trouble producing milk or experience breast infections. If it doesn’t work out, it can be very stressful for mothers. Mainly because of the social pressure that hits them from all sides. If it still doesn’t work, they often blame themselves – or even worse: other people insult them.
Many moms have to explain themselves several times
Breastfeeding, being able to breastfeed or wanting to breastfeed is a very personal decision, and she is the one who should have the right to decide. Because it’s her body and she should be fine with it too. For some outsiders, however, this does not seem to be understandable. They interfere and don’t accept the new mom’s opinion. The problem: someone is always dissatisfied. Whether it’s parenting or breastfeeding, there’s always something that she feels is wrong. In our community, women who didn’t want to or couldn’t breastfeed spoke honestly about their experiences with their bodies, but also with other people.
Women tell why they didn’t breastfeed their baby
Too much outside pressure
When a woman decides not to breastfeed, criticism usually comes from everyone around her. Friends or family members, midwives and doctors urge you to keep going. A topic that is now also being discussed publicly. The influencer MEL, for example, reports on the Instagram account “deine_mamagefuehle” about her experiences with breastfeeding at the time. She didn’t like the feeling: “It was uncomfortable and it hurt,” she explains in a video. Nevertheless, the young mother initially found it difficult to decide to stop breastfeeding because of the pressure from other people. Comments like: “But it’s the best for your child” came from friends and family, among others.
In the end, however, she decides on the path that feels right for her: “I have stopped breastfeeding and I have a very good bond with my children,” she continues. She was happy to give her children the bottle because it was nice and they enjoyed the bond. She also really appreciated the freedom that this gave her. Because of the change, she was no longer the only one who could feed the child. This has helped her to feel good again and her children are still healthy and allergy-free. “That was the right decision for me, for us,” said the mother.
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Sources used: Urbia, instagram.de/deine_mamagefuehle