The American media Buzzfeed has collected the testimonies of many mothers, they tell the reasons for which they were judged.
After pregnancy and the arrival of a baby, a lot of things change about a woman's body. Traces of the passage of the baby remain on the body such as stretch marks, the brown line or even depigmentation of the skin. But do not be ashamed of having them, it is a normal step that many women go through. From now on, you have to learn to love yourself again, because becoming a mother is worth all the changes in the world.
Also know that there is no guide to being a good mother, each parent raises their child as they wish. It is important to listen to your child's expectations, to adapt your education. Also, don't listen to people who lecture you on the pretext that they haven't been like you. Fun fact: they are not you.
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For Buzzfeed, many women testified about the inappropriate remarks they have received since becoming mothers.
- 1] "I was ashamed to have stretch marks two days after giving birth"
- 2] “I was changing my daughter's diaper in the back of my car in the parking lot of a grocery store and a woman approached us and said that I was teaching my daughter to expose herself in public”
- 3] "Recently my son, an only child, was bitten by a little girl at the nursery. The director of the nursery criticized us for not having more children, saying: 'If he had a brother or a mother. sister, he would have known what to do when a child bites him "
- 4] "I am a stepmom and I constantly feel ashamed because I am not a 'real' mum"
- 5] "My mother-in-law judged me, telling me that I should express the milk so that 'others can take turns feeding my baby'
- 6] "A stranger yelled at me because she thought the sun was in my baby's eyes. While we were at the beach"
- 7] "I was accompanying my son to the bus stop in pajama pants when another mom looked at me and said, 'You could at least have put on yoga pants.'
- 8] "I style my son's blonde hair in a bun and I was told that only 'Members of Parliament and sumo wrestlers' can wear buns"
- 9] "I was ashamed when I said my daughter was one year old instead of fourteen months old"
- 10] "I was ashamed that I didn't make Santa Claus in our house. Another mom berated me for 'ruining the magic of Christmas'
- 11] "Someone told me I should be ashamed of not keeping the 'art drawings' my child made in school"
- 12] "My mom humiliated me because I couldn't find the perfect balance between mom's life and work"
- 13] "A stranger has been thinking to me because I went to a mall with my newborn baby"
In 2020, it is high time to stop blaming women for trying to bring up their children in the best possible way.