InvestigationDeleted, the dating application. After years of virtual seduction and very real disappointments, young people aged 20 to 30 want to rediscover the thrill of unexpected encounters. At the risk of having no more adventures at all.
When Louis Poupinet decided to delete Tinder from his phone, a feeling of stress invaded him. This 24-year-old geologist, living in Marseille, had turned to this dating application for singles in order to escape the “trick” he felt when approaching strangers. Eventually, the bonds he forged through this system disappointed him. His longest relationship with Tinder lasted two months and made him feel like he never really started: “It ran out of steam very quickly because nothing tangible bound us. » Determined not to set foot again in virtual cruising, here he is again at square one, petrified at the idea of being turned away.
This return to life as a disconnected single person required him to make efforts to relearn how to seduce. It begins by no longer refusing when his friends ask him to see each other. Rather homebody and go to bed early, Louis tended not to always be there. “Even if, at the beginning, I said to myself that it did not resemble me, getting out of my comfort zone allowed me to be able to chat with people and see that I was completely capable of it, finally”, he congratulates himself. Without the contractualization of the reports allowed by Tinder, where an accepted appointment is worth as a first validation, the uncertainty seems greater. Louis therefore had to relearn how to advance blindly and to wipe the failures with a smile: “It can lead to wanting to get closer to people who already have someone or who are not at all interested, but at least it has the merit of being authentic. » With good grace, he accepts the new rules of the game.
Deleting Tinder is not a trivial gesture. Technology is, in a certain sense, this prosthesis which multiplies your power of action, a “easy way out”, emphasizes Louis, which can, initially, have a positive influence on self-confidence. This is why it is now a reflex: in his investigation into online dating in the time of Covid-19 released in October 2021, the IFOP reveals that nearly a quarter of French people who have formed a couple since the end of the first confinement have met their partner through an application. This is twice as much as before the pandemic. Twenty years after the creation of Meetic, dating sites are no longer sulphurous or provocative. To say “we met online” no longer makes you blush, it can even be the subject of a couple’s storytelling, as was the case, for example, during an episode of “Recherche appartement ou maison”, Stéphane Plaza’s real estate program on M6 .
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