A mum has revealed she had sex with her husband while her baby was sleeping right next to them. A choice that is debated among parents.
Co-sleeping is very popular with young parents, but sometimes it is difficult to find a life as a couple and a sexual life again by practicing this method. Finally, many specialists tend to say that you have to reinvent your sex life after giving birth, but is this possible with a baby sleeping in the same bed?
A mother testified in the show Cafemom broadcast on Youtube, she said anonymously that she had sex with her husband while their 8-week-old baby was sleeping in the same bed. The three parents present on the set and the presenter Kristen Chase debated after listening to the testimony of the young woman who obviously needed advice. A story that opens the discussion on this subject which can be very taboo.
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The reaction of the guests on the set
The mother’s video is broadcast on the set, her face is blurred, she says: “Last night we slept together with my husband and my 8 week old baby was sleeping next to us. We do co-sleeping with Sophia, she sleeps next to us every night. And I don’t want to be away from her when she sleeps. It’s the first time we’ve made love since our daughter was born, so we put a cushion between her and us. It was great but I still feel bad doing it next to her.”
The reaction of the guests on the set is immediate, Simon, a dad reacts directly to the video: “It makes me really uncomfortable for a lot of reasons but above all for the safety of the child. The bed is small, a lot can happen!” Tia, a mother present on the set, rather agrees with Simon, she explains: “8 weeks is a really small baby and rebounds on the mattress can eject it outside, it is dangerous. I don’t feel like they have any safety measures in place for the baby. I totally understand that she wants to be close to her baby but there is a line that should not be crossed and she crossed it by doing this.”
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Better not take the risk
Julia, the second mother present on the set, raises another important point on the set: “In the video, she admits to being uncomfortable with having slept with her husband next to her baby, as new parents sometimes we try things that don’t work. It’s quite easy to make adjustments so that everything goes well, put the baby in a bed next door or in his room with a baby monitor for example.” The presenter, Kristen Chase is quite comfortable with the idea of having sex next to her baby, for her: “They are babies, they don’t remember anything.” So no problem!
Questioned in another article published on our site, a parental coach shares this opinion: “until the age of 2 or 3 years, the child has no notion of his sexuality and therefore he does not understand what is happening around him”(…)But from an early age, the newborn is able to feel every emotion: joy, anger, fear, sadness…so he can perceive something. ”
The debate is therefore open. Remember that specialists advise against co-sleeping in the same bed because of a risk of suffocation of the child, but many parents still practice it to facilitate breastfeeding. However, for security reasons, in particular to prevent the risk of sudden infant death syndrome, the WHO recommends that a baby sleep in the parents’ room for the first 6 months. This may be the solution, as one of the speakers on the show said above: let the child sleep in his bed, in a safe environment, near the parental bed, and thus be able to make love.
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Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…