Green flags in the relationship
10 signs you have the right person by your side
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You’re in love, you feel good together – but how can you really tell if you’re doing each other good in a relationship? Let’s look at 10 Green Flags that are good guides to healthy love.
Your heart is broken so many times that it stays whole. That’s what a friend once said to me after I asked him if he wasn’t afraid to open up to people too quickly. There is something to the pragmatic answer – because if you get involved emotionally, you inevitably risk being hurt. That’s why many of us sooner or later experience that love can be one of the most beautiful and most painful feelings at the same time.
And anyone who has ever had lovesickness often automatically tries to protect themselves from it. It is therefore hardly surprising that in recent years we have increasingly exchanged warning signs, so-called red flags, which one should look out for at the beginning of dating – for example to protect ourselves from toxic relationships.
With all this caution, however, we easily forget that there can also be very, very wonderful aspects of love – and sometimes it is simply time to let go of fears and get involved again. That’s why we want to take a look at the positive side today. And talk about Green Flags, which mean that you can sit back and enjoy a little bit.
10 Green Flags in Relationships
You tell each other what you ate during the day.
Sounds banal, but: this is about serious interest in each other. If you even find what you’ve eaten during the day exciting, you must really like each other. Of course, this also applies to the simple question: “How was your day?”
you can be yourself
A little introspection can tell us a lot about our counterpart. do you feel relaxed Can you be the unfiltered version of yourself? You should never have to pretend in relationships.
You get compliments at the most unexpected moments.
Speaking of authenticity: your hair is tangled, you have no make-up and you feel more like a sofa than a catwalk – and in this state your partner compliments you. Very green flag! Of course, it also works the other way around: if you find your counterpart most beautiful after getting up and completely natural, that’s a good sign.
You fulfill wishes that you yourself have already forgotten.
He:she once mentioned that he:she would like to read something by author XY. And you give her:him said book for his birthday months later. You like to eat Franzbrötchen best, he: she brings you one without being asked. In everyday life, it’s not about big gifts, but about attention – and remembering what the other likes.
You speak about the future without fear of commitment.
“But you don’t do that in front of our children!” Such gimmicks are part of falling in love, but experience often teaches us not to think too far too quickly, so as not to drive the other:n away. Better: if this fear does not materialize, turns into anticipation and it happens quite naturally that you talk about a future together.
You ask instead of guessing.
Very important: In healthy relationships, the partners do not assume anything bad. Problems occur in every partnership, it is the way they are dealt with that counts: If you are unsure, just ask, so that there is no room for misunderstandings.
you can apologize
As I said: a good relationship does not mean that everything always runs perfectly. Sometimes you hurt someone without wanting or even realizing it. It is all the more important that both partners can apologize and do so sincerely.
You address bad gut feelings.
At some point in the course of the relationship they do appear: doubts, insecurities, fears. Now it’s important: Do you create such a safety net that you trust each other completely – and can also address such topics instead of eating them inside yourself? Clear green!
You tell each other when you want to have time for yourself – and also do things by yourself.
And most importantly, you don’t see it as an affront. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to express your needs clearly and not have to make excuses when you just need a little time for yourself or the like.
You do not expect each other to save you.
And finally: Relationships can be the sprinkles on your life ice cream, but should not claim to be a cold store. Say: Are you there for each other, take care and solve problems together, without expecting the other to be responsible for happiness gives you a wonderful foundation for the future.