Some people just can't be alone and would do almost anything to be in a relationship with whom. How you can tell whether your treasure could be one of them, we reveal here.
It's a question of personal attitude: If I find a life as a single so terrible and want a relationship at any cost, I will more or less care who the person by my side is. The main thing is that it fits and I can take it to a wedding or family celebration. If, on the other hand, I get along well as a single and just want a relationship with someone who inspires, surprises, makes me laugh and who I wouldn't trade for anyone else, I will probably be much more demanding and critical when choosing my partner – and myself Much more time.
Of course, it is impossible to judge which setting is better. Nobody knows what the perfect life looks like and what works for everyone. But it is possible to see what attitude someone has. For example on the following features.
5 signs he'd love to be in a relationship – but not necessarily you
1. He's just separated (if at all!), But wants to make it "official" with you quickly
People who really want to have a relationship usually jump from partnership to partnership without taking a break in between – their relationships can sometimes overlap. So if you're dating someone who broke up with their girlfriend yesterday (or wants to do it the day after tomorrow) and you clear a drawer in their dresser today, it may be that you were just in the right place at the right time – but could just as easily be someone else.
2. He's had a lot of relationships before you
Of course, you can also tell from the number of previous partnerships whether this person you are getting involved with is a relationship hopper. Many ex-partners in a short time and without breaks in between definitely speak in favor of it.
3. He hardly knows you really
You feel like you know everything about him because he keeps telling you about himself, but he hardly anything about you because he never asks anything? Well, he would if he really wanted to you would go. By opening up to you, he is probably trying to show you that he trusts you, and thereby perhaps laying a solid foundation for your relationship. A very honorable intention, in addition to which you can of course easily forget to be interested in your counterpart and to respond to them – if you don't care who is actually standing there.
4. It is there most of the time – but never when you need it
On the one hand you spend a lot of time together, on the other hand your possible sweetheart is never there when you really need him? There could be two reasons behind this, both of which speak for him being a relationship hopper: Either he doesn't notice that you need him because he doesn't really know you (because he shows no interest, see point 3). Or maybe they just focus on "their relationship with you is okay" but doesn't feel responsible for taking care of you. If you think he should, you have no choice but to say it.
5. He's giving you totally inappropriate advice
If someone is really close to you, they should be able to listen to you and open their eyes every now and then – but not give advice that doesn't help you. This is usually only done by people who are not really interested in you and who simply feel they have to help you – for example in their role as your supposed partner in life …
Of course, there's nothing against jumping from relationship to relationship or being with someone who does or has in the past – if it makes you happy! But if you want to share your long-term life with someone who stays with you even in a crisis and who cares about you, not about his or her comfort, caution is advisable with relationship hopping and hopping – because deep-seated attitudes are often very difficult to change …