"Love is what makes you smile when you are tired," said the writer Paulo Coelho once. But do relationships really always make you happy? These women share why they are happier without a partner.
The first date, the first kiss, butterflies in your stomach: being in love is wonderful – but not for everyone. On the occasion of the international "Singles' Day", seven women anonymously tell the portal "timesofindia.indiatimes.com" why they are happier as single than in a relationship.
1. "More time for myself"
“I'm a 30 year old working woman currently single and not at all ready to date. Not that I've never been in a relationship. The fact is, I've been in multiple relationships. But I've never been felt better, not even at an age when I should be married and have a child – at least according to the rules of society. There was a time when I had to give priority to other people and things, but now I have more time for myself and I don't feel guilty about doing things the way I want to. "
2. "I can hang out with my friends whenever I want"
"Who needs a partner when you have amazing friends. Over the years, I've realized how being in a relationship takes away the bond we used to have with our friends. But now that I'm single, I have Not only do I have more time to myself, but I can also hang out with my friends – without having to get permission from anyone. "
3. "I focus on my goals"
“In a relationship, I always felt in a corner where I had to choose between my goals and my relationship. It was never a good feeling because both were important to me. However, over time I began to see my worth and understand how my relationship was suffocating me from within. When I became single and independent, I was able to focus more on my goals and aspirations rather than compromising them for others. "
4. "I saw my own worth"
"When you're in a relationship, you need to think for yourself as well as your partner. This may seem normal, but it is extremely stressful. But having been single for a long time, I've recognized my own worth and took a step towards self-growth. "
5. "The most important relationship is that with myself"
"I'm in my late twenties and now is the time when people start to expect a lot from a woman. From being married to having children – these are the requirements a woman has to meet. That's why the thought of being alone got me always scared and tormented. Being single is a journey I've always been afraid of. But now that I've lived every part of it, I've realized that the most important relationship in my life is with myself – and nothing is greater than this. "
6. "I have freed myself from society's expectations"
"In my opinion, being single should be a choice rather than something deficient. As a woman, I've always felt that being single is abnormal because society demands something different from us. But now, Since I'm single, I find it more liberating. We women are much better able to achieve our dreams than men, but although the mentality of the people is so restrictive, it disadvantages us even more. "
7. "I've known the value of being independent since a violent relationship"
"It's been almost two years of physical and psychological abuse after I mustered up all my courage and decided to leave. Only those who have experienced the same cruelty will ever understand my pain. And that's why, once you're in Have been in an abusive relationship before you know the value of being single and independent. I think I've just got too used to the life of compromise. But now that I'm over it, I'm happier. "
Sources used: timesofindia.indiatimes.com