“My daughter doesn’t show it, but I know she’s very stressed! » A nurse practicing in Paris, Amel Laidouni is worried about her daughter Inès, currently in her final year. She wants to do “medicine or nothing”. “I tried to talk to her about other jobs that might interest her, such as biology or pharmacy, but she didn’t want to know.says M.me Laidouni at Worldby telephone. So my panic, when the results come in, is that she doesn’t get what she wants, and that she’s very disappointed. »
Like the 629,000 final year students – and often their parents – who are awaiting their results on the 1er June, Inès holds her breath. From this date, the admission results will begin to fall on Parcoursup. The 17-year-old would prefer to be fixed from day one, but she knows she’ll probably have to wait longer. For students who, like her, apply for very selective courses, offers of admission – or refusals – can take several days to arrive.
Sylvie Amici, psychologist for national education, suggests that parents help their children prepare for this period, to prevent them from being “tetanized” when making their choices. “It can be very destabilizing for young peopleshe explains, because, depending on the answers, they may be forced to make choices they did not anticipate. » Especially since things can go very quickly. When they receive an offer of admission, young people sometimes have deadlines of less than twenty-four hours to signal that they accept it, reject it or put it on hold. If they do not respect the allotted time, they risk seeing their place automatically given up.
Understand how the procedure works
In the eyes of M.me Amici, it can be useful to take time with your children to help them make a clear classification of their preferences. Sylvie Boudrillet, psychologist at the Mediacom Information and Orientation Center in Paris, also suggests that parents get information to understand how the procedure works. “There are parents who give bad advice when making choices, because they are based on their experience twenty years ago”she explains.
It is also important to put any disappointments into perspective. Because they have their noses immersed in Parcoursup, young people may feel that the choices they make today will determine their entire lives. “We have to make them understand that this is not the case”suggests the psychologist, citing the possibilities of reorientation or retraining.
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