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8 reasons why your sweetheart ignores you – or why it feels that way to you …
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When you write to him, does he never answer you right away? Almost everyone laughs at your jokes except him? Maybe one of these eight reasons is behind it …
Sometimes we see it with celebrity couples when they perform somewhere together, sometimes we experience it in our own relationship: One of the partners does not seem to give his sweetheart nearly the attention he deserves. If you are this treasure yourself, it can be quite unsettling. Did I do something wrong? Am I annoying him? Does he even have any respect for me?
Sorry for saying this so hard now, but to be honest: It can be anything! Just as well, there can be “harmless” reasons behind his behavior that have nothing to do with you …
8 possible reasons why your partner is giving you the cold shoulder
1. He feels overwhelmed by the situation.
Missed the exit on the highway, late at the security check to the gate, general stress or just too many people he wants to do justice to. In some situations people are overwhelmed and some react to it by blocking out everything that is not quite so acute at the moment – themselves or even the person they usually pay most attention to in life.
2. You are too much for him.
It might sound terrible at first, but a cold shoulder can of course also be a simple protective mechanism against the person who gets it. But now with all the love (and hurt vanity): Aren’t we all annoyed by someone every now and then, even if we love them from the bottom of our hearts? In this case, taking a step back often helps to draw your attention to yourself again.
3. He has a guilty conscience.
Oh oh, does anyone want to postpone a confession? The best way to test it out is to ask an innocent, cautious question like “Is there something you want to tell me?” His reaction, even if it’s “Nope,” will tell you a lot. At least if at least YOU are attentive to him.
4. He would love to attack you …
Maybe your darling is intentionally distracting himself from you because he is totally crazy about you, you turn him on like a beast – and it would be quite inappropriate for him to rip your clothes off and start the wild smooching … man, man, Man, you make it difficult for him too! ?
5. You hurt or insulted him.
Some speak openly when they have been insulted, others sulk and eat it in themselves. If your sweetheart belongs to the second category, asking if you have hurt him can help.
6. You make him weak or nervous.
Especially when you are with people who your partner usually meets alone or who know him as a single, it may be that he wants to maintain a different role in front of them than the one he plays in your relationship. Some people find it difficult to reconcile two different roles, so they decide on one of the two – mostly the ones they are more used to and in which they feel more confident. Not necessarily the ones you prefer!
7. He wants to tell you something, but it is difficult for him.
Your sweetheart may want to get rid of something very important to him, but is not yet one hundred percent ready – and that can be both positive and negative. To help him on the jumps, it would probably be ideal to ignore his ignoring – or to follow your own feelings!
8. He doesn’t respect you.
If he ignores you again and again and you just can’t find an explanation for it, unfortunately there can also be a lack of respect behind it. In that case the matter is clear: whoever does not appreciate you does not deserve you! ?♀️
Important! With all understanding and even if your sweetheart may have understandable human reasons for his behavior: You should never let him hurt you by doing this. And just as you try to understand him, you can ask him to understand you and respond to you. After all, you are not there to make his life as easy and pleasant as possible, but to make your life together as beautiful as possible!