Are you serious about dating and love? Then slow dating could be just the thing for you! Three tips on how to slow down your love life and maybe find the right one.
Dating can now work just like online shopping: dating app 1 on, swipe right on the wish list – to all the other hot candidates – a little chat until it gets boring, dating app 1 too, dating app 2 on and everything from the beginning. Thanks to the Internet, finding a partner can be wonderfully squeezed between work and leisure. Just swipe a bit on the way home or while waiting for your best friend and with a bit of luck find the big love – or maybe with little love the big misfortune. Because what is certainly true of clothes or furniture – the larger the selection, the higher the probability of finding the perfect pair of jeans – cannot simply be transferred 1 to 1 to people. After all, people have a character. And to get an idea of it requires attention and time.
This insight is also a core idea of the "Slow Dating" trend, which is about decelerating love life and partner search, making it more mindful – and enjoying it again – after all, it can be quite stressful and unsatisfactory, from app to app jump without getting why we're actually doing it all: human closeness. For example, a survey of the dating app "Once" among 4,800 users showed that around 70 percent of those who use more than three partner search apps are primarily stressed out by dating – which in turn leads to a real dating Burnout can lead to the fact that one day you are fed up with love and relationship …
But how do we escape this fate and evade the intoxication of quick matches and fleeting acquaintances? Clémentine Lalande, CEO of Once and founder of the former platform "Pickable", gave us the following tips on how we can make our love life more attentive and sustainable.
Slow dating: 3 tips for falling in love
1. Marie Kondo for your smartphone
As with many things in life, the following applies to online partner search: mucking frees us from distraction and ballast and frees us for things that are good for us. "Which app really brings me closest to my dating goals? Which app steals me most of the time? Which app will I be tempted to swipe en masse instead of looking for people who really interest me? Detox your smartphone and focus on the one or two apps that make you feel good and where you can find good conversations! "advises Clémentine Lalande.
2. Real love doesn't need filters
"If you are looking for matches on dating apps that mean something to you and that suit you, first think about how you want to portray yourself. Because the way you represent yourself also influences the type of people Are you sure your profile reflects your personality? Are you communicating clearly enough what you're looking for – and what you're NOT looking for? The more honest you are, the greater the chance that your match will really interest you – and not only for your photos, "said the expert.
3. Set rules and take time out
"While waiting for the bus, during the coffee break, in front of the TV: the dating apps open quickly and unconsciously take a lot of time from us. In addition, they are structured in such a way that they keep us on the platform for as long as possible thanks to the addiction factor of swiping But this is stressful and unhealthy. Therefore, the following applies: Take conscious time slots for online data, for example Sunday evenings. And time out is also good for the psyche: As soon as you realize that you are exhausted and that swiping and mating is stressful, you should You take a break! A month is a good time to change your mind and to deal with real life, "recommends Clémentine Lalande.
"Once" sees itself as a slow dating app and suggests to its users only one match a day – punctually at 12 noon – on which they can or must concentrate fully for 24 hours. The app can be downloaded free of charge from the Google Play and App Store.